Monday, April 6, 2009

Why Save Your Marriage? - 4 Good Reasons

When people reach the end of their emotional and psychological rope they invariably ask if their marriage is worth saving. Ironically, they already know intuitively they should save their marriage; they just don't know how. I have never met anyone (which doesn't mean they don't exist) who got married with the idea of ending their marriage sometime in the future. People get married to live happily ever after. Why are there so few who do?

We Live in a Very Confused Society

Everyone complains about dishonesty.
Even those who sneak into movies without paying.

Everyone complains about crooked politicians.
Even those who take advantage of their situational power.

No one thinks of themselves as a liar.
Not even those who cheat on their income tax.

Everyone thinks their marriage will work.
Even though the divorce rate is staggering.

The idea of saving your marriage is great. Trouble should create a wake-up call that prompts you to investigate everything and everywhere until you find a solution for your marital woes. In the meantime never give up on having a very happy marriage. You can save your marriage despite the flaws you find in your spouse or yourself; that is a fact. Do you think God is so cruel as to create marriage as a way to find suffering? Can you imagine God being so cruel as to create marriage only for those who are perfect? I didn't believe it and so I searched for and discovered everything needed to create or fix marriage; and you can too.

There are a number of good reasons to save your marriage:

1) Your children
Your children are not possessions. They came into your life as a blessing and a responsibility. The very foundation of a child consists of a united mother and father. Don't imagine your children will be OK if you don't save your marriage. Don't believe the lies society puts forth to rationalize "divorce on demand".

2) Your future success
When you took your marriage vows they reflected the most serious commitment of your life - to your spouse and yourself. Giving up is contrary to the laws of success.

3) Our society
Families are the unit of measure of any society. There has been a tremendous transformation to our society as a result of the high divorce rate. There is no reasonable substitution for a family-based social order. Each individual has greater importance when he or she is part of a society of families. The obvious insecurities and fears that are strangling our country are the logical result of divorce.

If your marriage is troubled there are clear-cut reasons, rarely the ones on the surface. Like anything else marriage has a natural structure to it which must be sustained by correct behaviors. I have gone into great detail in my book Lessons For A Happy Marriage so that anyone can understand what it takes to save a marriage, no matter how awful it may appear to be. Don't give up and don't be demoralized if your current state is one of pain and suffering. You and your spouse deserve what God has created for you to enjoy.

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About the Author:

I wrote Lessons For A Happy Marriage to help people save their troubled marriage and end the marriage crisis in our country; it's about saving children. Let's stop divorce. The problems go beyond the failures of marriage counselors. My life's mission is to eradicate the need for divorce through focused education. If you're married, tell your soul mate, "I love you."

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