Living in LOVE : Remembering why you married

The kids are yelling, the dog is barking, and you just found out that your spouse forgot to do the one thing that you needed them to do today…again! This scenario may sound typical for your family, or your scenario could be worse. Maybe you and your spouse are arguing more and more, and connecting less and less? You may have even asked yourself, “Is this marriage a mistake?”. Though you knew your life wouldn’t be like the Brady Bunch, you may find yourself surprised at just how much work a marriage can be – and its twice as hard if only one person is working at it.

If this is your situation, ask yourself why you married your spouse? I know it sounds silly, but really…why did you marry them? “Because we were in love”- well, that’s the easy answer-go deeper. See, life happens…kids are born, cars breakdown, jobs are lost, and through all of the ups and downs that are inevitable, its important that you remember why you married this person.

Reflect:

1. Think of the first time you saw your spouse. What is one thing that stood out to you about them?

2. Remember one time when you were sad, angry or disappointed and your spouse really came through for you. What happened? How did it make you feel?

3. What is one thing funny thing you know about your spouse that no one else knows?

4. Think back to your single life, before you met your spouse. What was it like? Now, really think – what is one small thing your spouse does to make you happy that you are here and not back there?

5. Remember a time when your spouse did something out of the ordinary and surprised you. What did that moment feel like?

6. Remember the first time you saw your spouse holding your child. How did that make you feel?

Remind:

1. In a quiet time when both you and your spouse are sitting together, bring up your first date. Bring up your happiest memories of this day.

2. Think of a funny story about when you first were married – good choices are dinners gone bad, ruined laundry, etc.

3. Talk about when you first became parents. What were your fears and hopes. Mention something positive about their parenting, and their connecting to your children.

Renew

1. If you eat dinner infront of the TV, stop. Gather together at the table with the TV’s off, so you can actually connect to your family rather than ‘veg out’.

2. Be nice. Okay, sometimes that’s easier said than done, but a little sweetness can go a long way. When you get up or go to another room, ask, “Can I get you anything?”

3. Be forgetful. Don’t remember every little thing your spouse has done that irritates you. Sometimes we hold on to the past because it feels familiar. Its not fair to hold the past against your spouse, and its not fair for them to do it to you. If they do, lead by example. Once they see you letting go of the past, they will also. As long as they know you are holding on to the past for future fight ammunition, they will do the same.

4. Touch. Place your hand on your spouse’s hand; lay your arm across their shoulders. An innocent touch can be just the softness and connection that your spouse is looking for.

5. Overlook. There is nothing gained by pointing out all of your spouse’s short comings, and when they have made a mistake don’t use it as an opportunity to put them down. Surprise them by ‘not noticing’ their mistake. No one likes to have their mistakes pointed out to them. We are all adults, and its likely that they are already aware of what they’ve done.

The point is, take some time to remember why you are in this marriage, take some self control and control your end of the marriage, and take the gloves off. Your spouse is not your enemy, and remember though children are the products of marriage, they are not the glue that holds a marriage together…love is.

Living in love with your spouse can sometimes be challenging, and that’s okay- that’s why the vows read for better, or for worse. With a little bit of effort on your part, and a partner that really loves you it is absolutely possible to live in love, and that is not only a great gift to yourself and your spouse. Living in love is a wonderful gift to your children.
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About The Author
Samantha Olea is a designer, business woman, wife, and most of all Mother of 2! Samantha founded a free parenting resource at http://TheBestMoms.com hoping to help every mom be the very best mom they can be! Samantha is also the owner of her own web design, graphic design, and hosting firm at : http://getwrappedup.com and AWU Gifts: http://Gifts.GetWrappedUp.com, where she helps Moms start their own business and work from their homes.

sam@thebestmoms.com

The Truth About Finding Your True Love And How You Can Fulfill Your Dream Of Living Happily Ever After With The Love Of Your Lif

by: Cucan Pemo

“All we need is love.” Myth or not? Since love does seem to be able to overcome anything and everything, at least on television and at the movies, this seems like a reality. However, truth is, making relationships work takes skill and hard work, regardless of the “love” factor. This is a myth here.

Let’s take a peak at some of the more common concepts above “love” relationships and see if they are myths or based upon reality.

If you are thinking of going into a relationship, or if you find yourself falling in love, and ready to date, keep this in mind: relationship is way, way beyond just love and attraction.

Just like in fairy tales, once true love is found, people live happily ever after. Truth or myth? Granted couples can look into each other’s eyes and have those warm fuzzy feelings. However, truth is, all couples will have their ups and downs. “Happily ever after” seems to imply a perfect, problem-less relationship when in reality, those don’t exist.

If you are in a problem-less relationship (which doesn't exist anyway), you'll get bored one day. And one of the couples will want to run away!

So, is it possible to create and maintain a long lasting and blissful relationship, or can one even dream of creating the relationship of his or her dreams?

You bet!

The first step is to arm yourself with the genuine knowledge and instructions on how to create your soul-based relationship. Trust me, it is worth your time and money if you can ever find a comprehensive course of instructions and learn more about the truth of relationship, and especially how you can draw in your soul mate!

It has to be “love at first sight” in order to work long- term. Myth or truth? While this can be true for some, it certainly doesn’t have to be for all couples in long-term relationships. Many people grow together over time.

Since practically anyone can learn the nuts and bolts of relationship building, focusing on some basic techniques that can be learned is a must. The main ones, in no particular order, are:

- Understand your-self.

Understand yourself. What is your personality. You may be surprised. Some people live for a long time and never come to understand or even realize why they are the way they are! And why is this important? It determines how you look at the world, how you will interpret the events occurring in your life, and WHO YOU ARE will help your partner determine how to react to YOU!

- Rapport: Develop rapport with others well.

Now let’s take a quick peak at the basics of developing rapport with others. In a nutshell, what it takes is to ask questions, have a positive, open attitude, encour age an open exchange of communications (both verbal and unspoken), listen to verbal and unspoken communications and share positive feedback.

- Conflict Resolution: Resolve negative issues and conflicts without too much friction

How do you handle conflicts? If you can put your ego aside pretty much and try to keep friction to a minimum, your relationships should move along fairly smoothly. Where you feel disagreement, if you can “agree” to disagree on certain things with the other party involved, that will help, too. In short, conflict resolution means to pretty much deal with others as you would want them to deal with you.

Once true love is found, people live happily ever after. Truth or myth? Well, it will definitely not be a perfect, problem-less journey. However, you definitely can live happily ever after with the love of your life, if only you will arm yourself with the right relationship skills and learn relationship mastery whole heartedly.

Trust me, this is within your power. It is your destiny to draw in your highest and best mate, if you have decided to.

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About The Author
Cucan Pemo is the Best Selling Author for her unconventional ebooks at http://www.RetrieveALover.com/home.htm. Get FREE Special Reports, FREE Ebooks, tips, strategies and resources on how you can Find True Love and Bring Back A Lost Love at http://www.RetrieveALover.com/home.htm