Showing posts with label true love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label true love. Show all posts

Sunday, May 10, 2009

Where to Find True Love

True love, many people are looking for this one and only true love. Some of them will be lucky to find true love in their lifetime. Some of them will be so unlucky. The other day a friend of mine after breaking up her relationship came crying to me. She told me she believes that her true love died a long time ago and it is almost fruitless to even try and find it anyway. As I listen to her, a thought struck me, could that be true and if it is true. Just how many people are not going to find their true love just because there one true love died? However I do believe there was someone made for each one of us that is special and that is what I told my friend. The question is how do you find true love among the many people who are not really interested in love but things you can do for them?

Find true love in a dating site. There are so many dating sites that have come up. Some of them are free and others are paid for. The amount people pay for in these sites is not so much and whichever site you choose should work nicely for you. In these dating sites there are people who are seriously looking for someone they can share their lives with and there are some who are looking for 'harmless' fun as they call it. Take care not to fall prey for those who are looking to have fun. Be very careful when you chat with some of these single people online. Remember to take all the precautions necessary not to get hurt by any of these people. You will need to make a profile that is captivating for you to attract someone. Take care not to lie on your profile.

Find true love in singles clubs or groups. Many people are registered in these singles clubs. You can identify one in your area and attend some of their meetings. Take part in the many activities that they organize to increase your chances of meeting with that someone special. If you feel the group is not working for you do not hesitate to move to another group. Move to several singles club until you find a club that best suits you. When you finally find that true love you can be sure to also find your one and true love. Do not join a club that you do not like doing the activities they have. If you do not like mountain climbing, do not join a club that has a lot of mountain climbing activities. This is because you will not have fun.

Find true love amongst your friends. Sometimes true love could be staring us in the eyes and we never realize it. It could be that person that keeps telling you that they love you. You have got so used to hearing them say that that you no longer take any notice when they say it. That could be your true love and since he does not want to force you to love them back, they will wait in the shadows, watch you get hurt time and time again, wish that they could stop the hurt but you would not let them. Check among your friends. You could find true love there.

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Francis K. Githinji Is An Online Dating Expert. His Latest ProjectFind True Love

Shows How The Power Of Online Dating Can Be Harnessed Internationally and With Great Success, Or You Could Post Your Valued Comments On His Blog At Find True Love

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What True Love Means in Reality

True love really exists. It is very rare but some people are lucky enough to find it. If you are one of those lucky people who have found true love, make sure you hold on to it. Never ever make people you love feel like you are using them and that you do not love. This is because they might leave when you least expect it. However, there are some people who think that they are in love and that there love is true only for them to discover otherwise. True love means that a person loves you more than enough never to let you go. When you need him or her the most, they will be there to hold your hands and to assure you that things are going to be okay. True love will not bolt on the first sign of trouble.

True love means that the two people who say they love each other really love each other. They do not only say it to themselves and the people who are listening but they act on it. True love is never one sided where by one of the person in the relationship loves the other more than the other. It has to be at least equal and if it is not equal the difference should not be too great that is quite noticeable by people who were not even looking. True love is selfless, that is just what true love means.

True love means so many things. Among those things is that true love is all about sharing. People who love each other share things that affect them. They will not also say that something belongs to them and the other person should not touch it. True love will allow you to share each others things. Now here comes the complicated staff. True love though allows people to share things; true love is also respectful of people's possessions. They will not misuse them in the name of loving each other but rather they will be careful while using their partner’s things. They will even ask for permission to use the staff before they even try to get any where near it. So do not hide behind true love and spoil your partner’s things and expect them to understand because they love you.

True love means that you trust each other enough to close your eyes and let your partner lead the way. That means you believe in him or her and you know that they cannot hurt you because they love you. It also believes and trusts that you are not having a relationship behind their backs and that even if you went out, it wouldn't be to have an affair with someone else but it would be because you want to have fun with you friends. True love is everlasting and because of that it plans right ahead. If a person does not love you, you will not hear of any plans for the future. All their talks will be the present and never will you hear anything about the future.

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About the Author:

Francis K. Githinji Is An Online Dating Expert. His Latest ProjectTrue Love Means

Shows How The Power Of Online Dating Can Be Harnessed Internationally and With Great Success, Or You Could Post Your Valued Comments On His Blog At True Love Means

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Tuesday, March 17, 2009

What are you looking for, true love or "blue eyes"?

By: Katherine Bouglai

When I talk to other singles or look at personal ads, I see a lot of people listing many physical qualities they would like to have in a mate. They want someone to be a certain age, make at least certain amount of money, have a specific eye color, be a certain height and so on and so forth. I have to admit that for a long time I was quite judgmental towards those people and I would sometimes even resent online dating because I got so sick of looking at profiles of men in their mid to late 30s who wanted a woman that was between 21 and 30 years old. At the same time I was completely oblivious to the fact that I was rejecting guys who were too short for me or didn't make enough money. All those judgments would only put me in a very disconnected place with myself and the rest of the world, to the point where I simply gave up looking and told everybody that online dating was not for me.

About a year ago I met someone I really liked. After a couple of dates where we had great time together he told me that he really likes me and enjoys talking to me but he cannot be in love with me because he only falls in love with women who have blue eyes. Needless to say, I was hurt, disappointed and even furious. Not to mention, I felt unattractive because my eyes are brown. After this scenario with that guy, all I kept seeing around me were men and women looking for love while having all those physical and external qualities in mind, unwilling to give a chance to anyone who doesn't fit into that profile. And they all complained either about not being able to find someone or about the person they were involved with for not meeting their needs. I judged them while doing the exact same thing myself only in a different way. And for some reason, blue eyes kept coming up as a factor enough times for me to come up with an expression: "What are you really looking for, true love or blue eyes?"

I continued to stay single and unhappy. I complained to my friends as well and when they told me that maybe I wasn't ready for a relationship yet, I got mad at them for saying it. I didn't know what it takes to be ready, and I didn't know how long will it take for me to even know that I am ready. After all, it has been a long time since I've been in a relationship as is. And then it hit me. Most single people stay single and fantasize of someone with certain physical qualities because they are not ready to face the real fear of intimacy. And when they meet someone who is all those qualities, they think they found their ideal match. What they really fall in love with is the idea of being with that person while at the same time trying to change them into being what they want. That is not love, it is an obsession.

So how do you know if you're ready for love? I have a test to answer this question. You may want someone athletic, under 30, with blue eyes and at least 6 feet tall, but ask yourself this: what is more important to you, to have a loving relationship with someone or to be with someone who looks good on paper or on a cover of a magazine? I understand and by no means exclude the possibility that you can have all of the above. But in order to get all of that, you must first really look at your priorities carefully. In other words, in order to finally meet someone who has all the physical qualities you desire and at the same time giving you all the love and healthy intimacy you need, love and intimacy must be of higher priority. This is how the universe works: if the blue eyes are your priority, then you will get the blue eyes, but you may not get love. And if your priority is healthy relationship, intimacy and love, then you will get just that. If you give somebody outside of your listed criteria a chance, guess what. If you don't fall in love with him or her, you can always choose to not pursue the relationship, but if you do fall in love, the fact that they are too short or don't have the blue eyes won't even matter anymore.

I am not saying you should settle for less, settling and giving a chance are two different things. And I am not encouraging you to date someone you don't like or even click with just because you feel like you're being too picky and in order to be in a relationship you have to date everyone who asks you out. Not at all is that the case. You will be wasting your time. But if you meet someone whom you like or feel a certain comfort around or feel a connection with even if it's not physical, and if they are interested in you, then give them a chance. You never know how it will turn out until you try. It may not be something you feel like doing, but it is what it takes to be open to love.

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Katherine Bouglai Singles/Dating Coach http://www.beopentolove.com

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